8 June 2012

The 5 love languages explained

I believe in fairytale love - nay, I believe in heart stopping, gut wrenching love, love that is so beautiful it makes life well, make sense. I believe that life was meant to be shared and love is one of the biggest aspects of it - for all of us, no matter the age, race or sex. But really, plainly and simply I believe in love with all of my heart. It is with this attitude that I am constantly on the search for awe inspiring, breathtaking experiences with Mr M and why we both continually look for ways to love and support one another and grow and nurture this crazy little love we share. When we discovered this 'thing' called love languages we gave it a 'crack'...that was 2 years ago and that 'thing' is now the foundation of our relationship. I am only sharing a snippet of the full article here, (it's quite long) but you can read the full article over at Possibly Maybe (my other fun little business I run). Have a magical weekend & I will see you back here on Monday xx P.s I'd love to know what you think your love language is once you've read it! Mine is Acts of Service & Mr M's is Touch.

The 5 love languages ... 
A few years ago I was given a book by a dear friend as he knew I had started a dating website and thought it might have been of use to me. I had never heard of it before but as soon as he explained it to me - I was intrigued. It was called ‘The 5 love languages' by Gary Chapman. In the book it explains that everybody has their own unique love language that falls in to 5 ‘languages' which are - Words of affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving gifts, Acts of Service and Physical Touch.
The book in a nutshell explains that everybody feels loved through their love language being ‘spoken' - or better put ‘acted out'. The best way I can explain this is to give you examples directly from the website:
Words of Affirmation
Actions don't always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you.
Quality Time
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, "I love you," like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there-with the TV off, fork and knife down, 
Receiving Gifts
Don't mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for,
Acts of Service
The words he or she most want to hear: "Let me do that for you." Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don't matter.
This language isn't all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face-they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love
This whole thing might sound crazy, or your typical ‘girl v guy' kind of relationship, and if you want to call it that then fine, but at least realise that there could just be something to this.

I dare you to do the quiz and find out which is your love language. Do a little more research on it and see for yourself just how much sense it actually makes and how much more fulfilled in a relationship you'll be once both your love languages are communicated.
Goodluck! I want you to get all that you need out of a relationship as more and hope this only takes your current or next relationships to new strengths.

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  1. True words! I will do the quiz :). Enjoy the weekend xoxo

  2. I was fortunate enough to read this book when I was 15 so going into a few relationships over the years, I knew it wouldn't last when we both had different love languages.

    Can't wait to do the quiz though, to see if I'm really the love language I think I am!

  3. Quality time and touch tied as my two main love languages. Then words of affirmation and acts of service tied as the second love languages

  4. Well, dear, I may have a more controversial view, but well: I think men should be bullies at work and puppies at home (and wherever their wife/girlfriend is). You can't let them get too loose and condone some behaviors that bother you. And they have to be professionally successful; spend this good energy of theirs at work. A man at home is no good; he'll simply resent the woman for being the breadwinner. We must push them, inspire them, let them accomplish themselves. And in exchange, they must worship us like goddesses.




  5. I have that book as well as the other for parents by the same author. It's the one book that you can't just borrow from the library but a good reference book that needs to be referred from time to time.

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