This weeks dating advice is one of the first articles I ever wrote for my website Possibly Maybe .. It's something I believe a lot of girls won't admit or they allow to happen as it's a lot easier to make excuses to stay in a relationship than to get out. So why would I write an article about getting out of a less than ideal relationship when I own a dating website so want you in a relationship? Because I truly care about women being the best they can be and never staying in something or with someone when they know that they shouldn't. It's a slightly in your face read but sometimes that's what it takes.
Don't Accept Sh*t Behaviour
Regardless of age, gender & sexual preference, this rule applies for everybody. If right now, in whatever relationship you're in, be it booty call, bit of fun or serious and you're one of those people accepting this so called shit behaviour - WHY??
Sure it's hard to hear, harder to admit & probably hardest to then change, but NOT putting up with shit behaviour is SO beneficial to your health & happiness.
If you are one of these people that are accepting shit from others I have 4 words for you - You're wasting your time.
You could be allowing this to happen for a number of reasons, and no one is here to judge that. What you do need to work on though, is finding out why you stick around when there is someone else out there wanting to treat you like the amazing person you are.
You know very well what is the right way or the wrong way in how people treat you, so why then allow someone to treat you in a way than is less than what you deserve.
Talk a walk with me for a moment to fully understand the scope of the point trying to be made. You're in your mid twenties and seeing someone who you think is your ideal partner. Then tiny cracks start showing - they've hooked up with someone & blamed it on you not having set boundaries, they constantly blow you off for their friends or just simply talk down to you one too many times. To some, this is enough evidence that this person isn't right & certainly not worthy, so they leave. For many of you though, you make excuse after excuse somehow convincing yourself that's not the person they really are or that you can change them (gasp!) Why why why? Leave and don't look back.
And I mean....DON'T look back.
You're an amazing person, you know this you might just have forgotten how amazing with the busyness of life & every day demands. And of course let's not dismiss the fact that we all do want someone special to share things with so you can be forgiven for needing to be reminded this once to NOT accept behaviour you don't deserve.
So why would you settle for anything less than exactly what you're looking for? There's really no excuse, and if there is an excuse, well then there is qualified people who are able to help you with those problems - so go & get that help!
There's someone out there wanting to treat you like the Kings & Queens that you are, so stop accepting shit behaviour in your life & expect better from others....and from yourself.
Yours in light & love xo